but i told him nah! Is he telling me things just to shut me up or does he blurt things out impulsively. He stopped foreplay. When you feel as though your partner isn't giving you the attention you deserve, it can be incredibly frustrating, confusing, and hurtful. And the only way we can get closer is by communicating as much as we can. I feel like I have to bow down to him because its always his way. But what?! Sadly, he doesnt ask questions about me, my life before. I wasnt looking but I found it. Interestingly I dont really like his love, yet Im the one trying to maintain a sex life and hes the one being cold and avoidant? Xx. Thats hurtful. But now that he has you he sees he doesnt have to try anymore. He understood, admitted he takes me fore granted and he would try harder. Stay fabulous sis!? Girl what? I think that might make him feel better. I love my boyfriend, but just cant get the feeling that he feels the same. I would go on my off days when I wasnt in collehe classes or work. When i pull back abit, i notice it is when he makes an effort. You are so young and still have many, many years to find a good guy. It made me sad, I didnt even hear from him all weekend and then he tells me he misses me. I dont want to talk about marriage or kids or the future. Seriously WTF? He didnt want to and i ended up cheating. It sounds to me like hes not into you. Im in the same exact boat. all in all, i just feel underappreciated, mistreated and im angry and resentful towards him all the time. Right now I want to clear things out and make this the last time we talk about this, because in the last month I told him many times that I felt like he made no time for me and was making more effort to spend time with his friends than with me, and he doesnt even answers my texts. when i make plans to go out tgt w him he will in the end cancel it and i feel so fked up. We look for people to fill our emptiness and when they arent meeting the standards we become emotionally unstable. forgive me for my wrong grammars im a filipina and im not that good in expressing myself in english. but when you asked him he keep saying i dont hate you i hate your attitude sometimes. He knew everything about my family and their pictures but not for me. Either speak up about these things or get out of that relationship. I dont know if you have or not, but try just letting him spill his heart out to you about his feelings. So, my boyfriend and i have known each other our entire lives. He should be making an effort to see u, call u , and text you throughout the day. I forgot the bin was being collected and it was due to arrive in a few hours, he didnt take it out. How much do you know about his life, family, friends and job? its just do not putting attention at all. So in my situation, I live with my boyfriend for about a year now in which we did move too fast because we moved in together after about 6 months of dating. Now I just want to be alone. Its now Tuesday, nothing. I was in so much pain and he couldnt even come to check on me. He doesnt come over, we dont go on dates. I had stated in the beginning of the relationship I wanted marriage. He chatted me the day of valentines day 2019. Especially since at the beginning thats when you have your honeymoon stage with the feeling of butterflies and the sweet words. For a while there I was wondering if he was a narcissist, player or just using me. This is where my first question comes in: how well do you know your boyfriend? A healthy relationship should brighten your day, not wondering where you stand. Any effort I make gets unnoticed and it is never enough. 36 Questions to Ask Your Partner That Lead to Love, 6 Signs Youre Growing Apart From Your Partner, take a negative toll on your relationship, determine if the partnership is worth mending. and I can say that I would of made more of an effort. Web206 views, 11 likes, 2 loves, 2 comments, 2 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Andr Lima - EFT: O PODER DO PERDO. m tired n dont know what to do anymore! I dont know what to do. Its like he wants to cause as much damage as he can verbally to win and I dont get it. The day before yesterday he texted me saying hes been feeling unwell and didnt get much sleep. Hello everyone, Ive been with my boyfriend for two years, hes a good man, kind and gentle and always takes care of me. We got in a fight because I said I was upset because he hadnt made time for me in the last week. Even sent follow up warnings and he still didnt do anything this Valentines Day. In all reality if he is losing interest youll know in time. ive already told him my feelings about this often. After that he chatted me that hes sorry he didnt give the money and I said im not accepting money for sex. Im afraid the only way we can turn this scenario upside down is by starting to love and care about ourselves more. When a guy stops texting you it is likely to He also is financially stressed and gets seasonal sadness (its winter here in Wisconsin) and I try my hardest to support his needs with it all but it drains me always having to take care of him while I get nothing in return except more expectations. Your boyfriend is a narcissist. LOL. We cuddled and played video games until 5 am and they took me home. Everything I say he interprets as me hating him. For our year and a half anniversary I didnt have money at the time and we were fighting a lot but I made him a good luck bracelet and wrote him a very personal card. Libido has infinitely dropped. He has lost interest in everything. He has been better now and takes time to analyze his intention before he says more. And now a year & half down the line we seem to be in a rut. He has joint custody of his 17 yr old daughter and about 2 months ago he found out that her stepdad had been engaging in sexual activity with her. I had to call him! He said he is trying to change. When a partner is heavily distracted by other commitments, tasks, stress, and anxiety, they may find it too challenging to redirect their attentionand they may even be so wrapped up that your needs don't even register. Its also about giving a relationship the time He doesnt ask about my life and hes still working with his ex wife in a business relationship. thank you so much for posting this article since i really need clarity for my mind . However, if my boyfriend was gaming with another girl I would have broken up with him. However he has an interview for one. I dont know what to do. This might not apply to all guys. Im in college and so is he. For the past year and a half he stopped being aggressive after a night out of drinking. I really think this will be a good thing for us because Ill be able to have my own independence and maybe make him see that I can be happy without him (even tho as of right now we are planning on staying together and commuting to each other when we can). He then said it was my fault because I did not remind him that I needed a ride. Putting yourself out there to even carry on with friends will feel more exhausting each time till you get to the point where you just want anyone in your life at all. Im 22 & hes 25 , why arent we fucking like rabbits? The last year and half has been a struggle just one thing after the other. 1. We have been together about a year and a half, when we are together we have fun and our intimacy is great. As well as this, I makes me question if he is speaking to other females behind my back again. He had had so much time to think about and plan for any of the above and a week before our anniversary had started lamenting how the holidays are too close together and it is hard to think of any good gifts, so he did nothing. Im certain when he got up in the middle of the night drunk and angry because I was trying to cuddle and woke him up (he got dressed and turned all the lights on to start manically cleaning the house) that he probably threw them in the garbage. He didnt court me. He had stopped taking pictures of me, he stopped liking my pictures in social media, the gifts stopped, and overall I felt as a hassle when I hung out with him. If your boyfriend never made an effort to begin with, then he may simply be lazy or indifferent to building and maintaining a relationship with you. I got to see him in person for the first time and we were in love. If youre last on your boyfriends list of priorities, then you need to stop wondering what to do when he makes no effort in your relationship. I guess subconsciously I acted that way because hes quite lazy and I didnt want to cut him any slack in fear that he would put in less effort to maintain the long distance. Is it bad that I miss being just friends with him?. We just celebrated our 9 months of being together last Sept. But you have to become selfless. Ladies lay back and observe. He has always been lazy and wants to spend his day relaxing on his days off. What should I do? A lot of times my boyfriend has realised he did it on purpose to hurt and he regrets his words right after. All I can suggest is continue to be very clear with your communication. Whenever I go anywhere its just me and the kids! Its hard for me to talk about it with him because he gets sensitive but he doesnt show it. He is highly smart so I am not going to spell it out for him. He sent a text yesterday telling me,he is still with me and will always be with me,he loves me and needs me,but he is still a bit distant! Your email address will not be published. Ive thought of letting him go because hes not what I want in a relationship, but hes the only one in this world that knows every single thing thats been in my head. Yet he continues to text me daily, send me daily updates on everything he is doing, etc. If we cant COMMUNICATE with our guys needs to be worked on by both parties. He is trying to save the world on his own. Its a long distance relationship, we live 2 hours away from each other. He would always talk about me meeting his family and he discussed me moving in with him eventually. He tries to make me think Im crazy when I talk him about it. Yes I agree me with Kristina. What do you do when your boyfriend hate you so much when he is drunk? When I ask whats wrong my boyfriend bites my head off, shouts at me, tells me Im just trying to cause trouble when Im totally calm and just asking a question. You can let go slowly at first and just start seeing other people. He still did not make much of an effort as far as even coming to visit me. Living togeter or having sex before marriage is not accepted in my family and i also iddnt want to do that. Ive been with my bf for a year & half but we have past history. You have to be more understanding. We dont barely talk to each other. Then we started to fight about it a lot because I always felt like I wasnt a priority and was only worth his time when he wasnt with friends or he was horny. recently,his uncle and fam went to visit them and its been quiet hectic for him with three energetic kids pestering him every moment. He betrayed his best friend, he betrayed the woman that has been loving him. From what you said, he seriously dont appreciate you. But If they are not- I think you have to consider moving on. My bf is the same and continuously emphasizes to me that he is trying. Dont let your wishes control your thoughts and feelings. Next day he texted me telling me I looked cute etc. Get woke honey, the mans just not that into you. Its really hard to get him to change his habits. His golden excuse is Im busy. Hed say something really mean, watch my cry and if I asked to talk about it, Hed tell me why do we have to always talk about it or why cant you just drop it and not bring it up my favorite was Im not apologizing because Im not sorry, you just like making a big deal over nothing one time I asked about marriage (he took me to the red wood Forrest and asked me to marry him 2 years prior to this comment) he told me hed never marry a b**ch. Thats it.. theres nothing more than that. 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